Can you take a complement?

I have had difficulty in taking a complement from just about anybody. I don’t know why I have this problem, but I know that a lot of other people face the same issue. I was looking through my Facebook account (which I rarely use) and I saw a distant relative of mine stated that she wished she looked as beautiful as the girl in the picture. The picture was her face after it was put through a computer program to make her look different. At first, I thought that she was kidding. I’ve always thought that she was beautiful and talented and a good person. So, I made a comment that she is always beautiful to the people that love her.
Then I thought, I have the same problem about my looks. I’ve always thought that I was a plane looking person. Someone who did not stop stand out from the crowd or would gather attention. I did not put a lot of effort into changing my appearance. That is not to say that I did not tried to do the best I could for what I have. But I never thought that I was good-looking are that I stood out from the crowd.
For the last 30 years, my wife has always told me that I was good-looking and handsome. And that she fell in love with me from the first time she saw me. As much is I love to hear those comments, I found it hard to believe that anyone would think that I was handsome. Year after year, even as I grew older she would continue to tell me these things. At first, I said that it was just because she was in love with me. I found it hard to really believe that I look good to anyone.
But when I saw the Facebook entry of my distant family member I realized that she did not see herself like all of us around her did. That’s when it hit my mind that maybe to some people I am handsome. Maybe for some people I do stand out in a crowd. I know you’ve heard the saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For example, I think Picasso was a terrible painter. All of a sudden, I started to feel good about myself.
I have many times seen someone express how beautiful someone else was. As I looked at that same person I did not see such beauty. Shame on me. But then, I realize that beauty really is in the eye the beholder. You or I are not just a face on driver’s license or in a photo. To someone out there we stand out. We are noticed, and we are handsome or beautiful, maybe even both.
That brings me to my thought of the day, no matter who you are or where you’re from, your beautiful or handsome. Somebody out there sees you that way and they mean it when they tell you are beautiful or handsome.
Maybe it’s because you are not frozen in time as in the picture. It’s because there something about your true live nature and the way you are perceived by the other person that makes you handsome or beautiful. Now here is the hardest part, you have to believe what they say. You have to accept that to someone out there you are handsome or beautiful. They are not trying to take advantage of you or lead you down a road that will hurt you. In their eyes you are as they describe you. In my eyes there are many people that I feel are truly handsome or beautiful. I not only mean the person on the inside, but I mean their physical appearance. My wife is beautiful, and my children are beautiful, and my grandchildren are beautiful.
There are sometimes when I’m walking to the public areas and I see somebody who I think looks good I have complemented them on their appearance. While living in a large city I would get some very guarded look and usually no response. While living in a more rural area the person I complement usually responded.
So, after so many years of being a skeptic and worrying that somebody was complimenting me only to take advantage of me or lead me into trouble, I’ve started to take the compliments and say thank you. It is still hard for me to believe that anyone sees me as handsome. But after reviewing how I felt about others I’m going to have to accept the compliments.
Pops

2 thoughts on “Can you take a complement?”

  1. This is a good blog!
    I can remember as a child being shy and did not think I was pretty. Daddy got down on one knee one day and said “ look at me….you are so beautiful and if someone gives you a compliment, no matter what kind, and you are at a loss as to how to take it or respond, just smile and say Thank you! No more no less”

    Too this day I remember that and it was great advise!
    Love you my very handsome brother!!
    Cathy

  2. You are the most handsome man I have ever met. It is true I loved you the moment I saw you 30 years ago you are my everything

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