Why do people feel like they must tell me everything about them?

It seems like every time I go to the store or go out to eat I will meet someone who feels obligated to tell me their whole life story or they were go to great detail about something they do that obviously, I need to know about.
I hope you know what I mean. For example, we go out to eat and run across a waiter or waitress who seems to want to use you as a sounding board. After merrily saying thank you for putting the plate in front of me, there are many times that the server comes back and lets me know about their life history at their work including the relationship with the boss. Each time this happens, I tried to appear to be interested so much so that sometimes my meal gets cold. Every now and then the server will ask me if I agree or disagree with what they said. Most the time, they just rattle on making some dangerous statements.
This week I went to Walmart and was looking at the fishing equipment. As I stood next to the hooks and weights a man about my same age began to give me his review of the equipment I was looking at. After about 20 minutes of listening to his advice and fishing experiences, I made a quick move to the next aisle. Only to be followed by this gentleman as now he reviews the fishing equipment on this aisle. In desperation, I went to one of the Walmart employees to ask about a particular product. I was hoping this would separate me from the talkative man. That did not work either. I had mentioned to him in the prior conversation that I was looking for plastic bait. Well, he made it his mission to find that product and brought it to me. I did not have the heart to tell them that I’d already found it. So, as he disappeared into the other aisle I placed the product back at its rightful position on the shelf.
Both my wife and I try to be polite to those people who engages in conversation. But it seems like lately the conversation lasts the complete time at the location. I even had to use the excuse that I had to go to the bathroom to get the person to quit talking to me. By the way, that is always a great way to get out of a situation.
I don’t know why this happens to me because I don’t think I have a friendly face. So, if you have a good idea on how to get these people quit talking to me let me know. I don’t want to be mean or rude I just want to be effective.
Pops

2 thoughts on “Why do people feel like they must tell me everything about them?”

  1. I know what you mean. Is this a sign there are some truly lonely people in world?
    I have used ” No offense, but I/we prefer to be alone right now”. Might even have to cut them off with a hand gesture or something before saying it.

  2. Well, let me tell you a story about how found the perfect way to get out of that conversation, but first I need to tell you a little bit about myself so you can understand how I got there….

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